Some families in Missouri have real issues with domestic violence, and one parent may need to take sole custody of the children for safety reasons. However, it is also important to understand that false accusation of domestic violence is a common problem in divorce cases. When lies are told in the courtroom, a parent may unfairly lose custody.
Why divorcing parents lie
If both parents have a good relationship with their child, sharing custody is usually in the child’s best interest. In some divorce cases, though, one parent becomes defensive and treats child custody negotiations as a contest. To ensure that the other parent doesn’t “take the children,” the defensive parent might levy a false allegation of domestic violence against them.
Disproving lies takes a toll
Unfortunately, even if you did nothing wrong, you still have a lot to worry about when false accusations are made about you. You will have to disprove these accusations, and the process could be lengthy, expensive, and emotionally draining.
Children may have to endure unnecessary trauma when a divorce proceeding involves false accusations of domestic violence. Child protective services and police may become involved in the case, and children may have to testify for the court. In some cases, the parent who is lying will actually coach their children to lie too, which can be psychologically damaging.
Build a strong defense
If your estranged spouse has chosen to lie in order to get full child custody, they may not stop at just one attempt. Often, parents who take the dishonest approach continue to make up one lie after the next until they get their way. It’s vital that you confront these false accusations quickly by building a strong defense.